Relational Healing with Dr. Luke Adler

It takes more than love to have a great relationship.


Courage, creativity and resilience are the name of the game.

At some point every relationship moves from the honeymoon phase to the reality phase – at this juncture we have a choice to make.

Are we going to create a mature, committed communication style, knowing full well that conflict is where we grow trust and love?


Are we going to avoid our issues and pretend everything okay?

Both paths are challenging, but one will lead you to healing, strength and power and the other one…well, if you’re reading this you know where the other one goes.

Whether you’re in a partnership, friendship or committed relationship with a family member, relationship deepens and becomes stronger when we learn to navigate conflict successfully and demonstrate to each other that we’re capable of navigating tough conversations and hard times. Relationships that are tempered by challenge are the gold of life. My sense is that whatever journey awaits us after death, the one thing we can take is the love we’ve created and tended.

If you’re interested in cultivating true wealth–the love of family and friends–then you’ve found the right place and the right guide.

I’m a healer, coach and a doctor of Acupuncture and Chinese medicine with a specialty in stress-induced illness.

I’m fascinated by the way the mind can create illness in the body

I study the psyche, the emotions and how they make us sick and how they make us healthy.

Through my nearly 20 years of practice, facilitating over 50,000 sessions of healing I can say with confidence that the arena where people experience the most stress is relationship—relationship to partner, family, friends and ultimately to all the dimensions of who we are as individuals.

My healing work is exclusively focused on relationship and helping people create healthier ones.

I’ve learned we cannot focus on the health of the body without addressing the health of the systems in our lives–the health of all the relationships that we’re in.

Relationship is inescapable…Relationship is what characterizes life…and there is a healthy way to engage in relationship.

I will teach you the principles of connection, of love, care and empathy, patience, timing, and courage. My entire life is dedicated to healthy relationship and if you’re reading this you know relationship is not all rainbows and unicorns. It’s hard and messy and at times despairing… and it is more than possible to become skilled at relating and creating a badass relationship that lifts you and your community up and inspires others to dive in.

I want a badass relationship. What does it take?

To create connection and restore connection when it is broken requires vulnerability and transparency.

Brene Brown says vulnerability is basically uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. You don’t have to blow up your marriage or world to heal, but if you want a heart-smashing, soul-stirring relationship, vulnerability is required. The most powerful way forward is through the intelligence of your body and the wisdom inside your heart. In other words, learning to feel what’s real and true for you and sharing that with who you love.

I can teach you how to create a safe container to share and as safety grows, so too, will trust. As trust deepens sharing your soul with each other becomes second nature and you get to experience falling in love again and again with yourself, your rad partner and your amazing life.  Even when things suck and become hard, you find appreciation and gratitude because of who you get to be with during the hard times.

What if I don’t have a partner and want to work on myself?

If you don’t have a great relationship with all of your own dimensions, you can’t have one with someone else.

Whether you’re in relationship or not, this work will deepen your love and respect for yourself. The work is about engaging with your own pain and longing to be seen, understood and appreciated. Once you start to see and love yourself deeply, attracting a partner who mirrors that is inevitable.

This work is not about dating, it’s about deepening. It’s a commitment to a meaningful fulfilling life.

I’ll ask you to date the parts of yourself you don’t like—your shame, anger, jealousy, grief, etc. Learning to love all that you are, all that you’ve ever been through and doing that with another person is the ultimate life challenge. The rewards are never ending.






Through 1 on 1 work with me you will:

  • Discover you’re not made of glass. You can handle hard shit. In fact, you’re strength is far far greater than you know.
  • Increase your emotional literacy— be able to recognize your feelings and express them more skillfully.
  • Become more open and inviting to hearing your partner’s feelings without the need to fix or improve them.
  • Welcome whatever you’re feeling and begin to see uncomfortable emotions as opportunities for greater intimacy.
  • Be able to open yourself to who you love without defending yourself.
  • Become clear about what works for you and what doesn’t work for you in relationship.
  • Be less careful with how you speak but still loving.
  • Learn how to reconnect to yours and your person’s heart quickly.
  • Learn how to deepen your connection and build unbreakable trust.
  • Experience being in Love regularly and often.

Schedule a free 15 minute consult with me here or purchase sessions:

$250 for 60 minute individual session 

$325 for 75 minute couples session

5 individual sessions packages – $1125

5 couples sessions package – $1475



We all … all long for an awesome heart smashing, soul-shaking nervous system settling relationship.

It is possible if you:

Feel stuck between a rock and hard place, but want a change.

Think or maybe believe all your choices are shit.

You’re willing to trust your body to guide you to the truth.

You sense you have the answers but don’t know how to get to them.

You’re ready to unlock your wisdom and self-healing power.

You’re ready to own your capacity to create a fucking beautiful relationship.

You’re ready to face your relational challenges and strengthen your ability to communicate and generate more love.


This work is not for you if:

You want a transactional relationship—one person provides money and shelter in exchange for sex and cleaning.

If you believe relationship should be easy (you can thank Walt Disney for that one).

If you really believe your partner is the problem and they need to be fixed because you have your shit together.

If you truly believe your partner is perfect and you’re the problem.

If being comfortable is more important than feeling alive and being in love with your life, especially when it gets difficult.

You just don’t want to do any work to create a wonderful relationship. 


In order to navigate the vast mountain of relationship successfully, you need a trail guide who has done it before. I am such a guide who will lead you through those challenges…I invite you into a journey filled with excitement, passion, sorrow as well as deep joy and radical aliveness that can be yours all of the time. Yes, it can be a little scary but you will find at some point that you know how to climb mountains. You won’t need my guidance anymore once you know how to navigate the wild of relationship.